What my kids really think of me...

I realise that I can get a bit too harsh on myself. Only I know what's going on in my head, and it's so easy to criticise that... whereas others only see my actions, and they make up their view of me based on those. What people think of me often surprises me, in a good way - I never expect anyone to think highly of me!

When I saw this little quiz on Facebook, I thought, let's have a go with the kids, it could be funny. They both answered and both blew me away - how radically differently do they see me to how I think I am with them!

The Questionnaire

WITHOUT any prompting, ask your child these questions & write down EXACTLY what they say. It's a great & funny way to find out exactly what they think.

Childs Name: N and D
Age: 6 & 4
What is something Mummy always says to you?
N: Be careful
D: Don't go into a cave with a lion (?)
What makes Mummy happy?
Both: CUDDLES with us!! (true!)
What makes Mummy sad?
Both: When we fight (also true)
How does Mummy make you laugh?
N: Tickling us!
D: Dancing funny!
What was Mummy like as a child?
Both: ...don't know
How old is Mummy?
N: 16
D: 40 (spot on!)
How tall is Mummy
N: 20 feet
D: 40 feet
What is Mummy's favourite thing to do?
N: Play with us! (really? REALLY? I can't believe she thinks that, but how amazing!)
D: Cuddles!
What does Mummy do when you're not here?
Both: Clean, tidy, put things away (spot on)
If Mummy becomes famous what will it be for?
Both: what is famous?
What is Mummy really good at?
N: Playing with us (again, REALLY? Wow!)
D: Cuddles! (I see a theme here.... my cuddly boy)
What is Mummy not very good at?
Both: ...
What is Mummy's job?
N: writing chores on the fridge
D: keeping us warm
What makes you proud of mummy?
N: you're really good at playing with us! (!!)
D: I'm really proud of you.
What is Mummy's favourite food?
Both: salad! Green beans! (yes!)
What do you & Mummy do together?
N: play together!
D: Cuddles!
How do you know Mummy loves you?
N: she plays with me.
D: I don't know... (he's clearly getting fed up of the questioning)

I left it there. but whoa. Whoa. Play? Me? I didn't expect this at all, and it blessed me so much with the answers they gave!

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