Nursery, second time round

So the boy has now reached the age of free nursery hours. I had kept N going for a year but took her out last December (story here), whereas D only just started this month - it's his third week.

Normally such a
happy boy

I'm already pretty sure I'll take him out again.

He is very articulate, and he knows his own mind. As I've grown in my parenting I'm much more willing to listen and truly hear, and I'm putting much more importance on taking heed of what they're saying. I think as a society we so often just talk over or dismiss our kids, we easily out-argue them in a discussion or we think we know what's best.

Well D has been very clear, he doesn't enjoy nursery. Asked further, he says he likes all the grownups there but not the other children.

Now I know he isn't as social by nature as N is (very few people are!) but he normally gets along with other kids very well... So I can only think it's how interactions there are (or perhaps aren't) mediated. I don't know. All I know it's he's definitely not happy, doesn't want to go - and yet, there's a side to the argument that he hasn't really had time to get used to it.

I don't know. I'll give it until mid October, when we go away for two weeks. After that I might send him again, maybe just until Christmas - or I might not send him at all, depending on how these next few weeks go. He's certainly got a mother who takes him more seriously from the start than N did.

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